So here's why I broke up with my girlfriend... (1361 hits)
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Submitted by Wigger Please (View user info) at 2009-11-02 21:11:15 EST
First off I'm not doing this as a means of seeking sympathy or pity, I'm just not good at handling breakups and I'm doing this in an attempt to get everything off my chest. You can call me whatever you want. I just need to get this out.
So, where to start. Well, the girl I shared 13 months with has kissed a guy behind my back (and possibly more). First off, she started acting really weird and cold and then disappeared for a couple of days. And the entire time up until I found out the truth, I just had this really weird, uncomfortable feeling. Like a sixth sense that something was off. Anyway, afterwards, she calls me up and says she needs to talk. And talk we do. As it turns out, things aren't what they used to be, for reasons she is unable to dictate. So I give her a few hours to think it over. We later meet in the afternoon and sure enough, she wants to break up, despite saying that she still cares/loves me. But at this point, I still didn't know she cheated on me. So I probe her a bit more and she admits to it. No reason, nothing. She just says it happened. She was sober too, which makes it even more painful. I find myself upset, but for my own sake I decide to quickly move on. I should also add that this happened 1 day before her 19th birthday and I was fairly quick to return the $200 locket I had bought for her.
A few days pass. I run into her and some of her friends at a pub. They start texting me and annoying me with little messages. So my friends and I finish up what we're doing and leave the area to go elsewhere. A day later, she texts again, apologising, claiming she still loves me and wants to get back together. I go to visit her. Emotion is pretty stale and something doesn't seem right. As already discussed, she cheated on me and now I find it extremely hard to trust her. But I want to give it a try, I mean, I loved this girl.
We decide to try and fix it, make it work. We have amazing make up sex and then I leave for work. She stays over at my house for the weekend, we have sex a few more times and everything seems fine. But as days passed, we start to argue over little things. I see photos of her on Facebook where she is kissing and making out with random guys in night clubs, this occuring only 1 day after we had split. She admits to going out EVERY night of the week we were apart and hooking up with random people. Obviously, this hurts. I find it even harder to believe and trust her. It just seems to me that if she genuinely loved me and felt bad, she wouldn't do things like that. Or is that just me?
My friends and family DO NOT approve of the situation. Everyone says I'm just delaying the inevitable and setting myself up to be hurt again. I love this girl though, and I'm convinced that she'll change, so what do they know, right? But like in the past, I followed my heart and not my head, which is what has lead to my demise. Though I want things to work, I've still got this sixth sense, that something just isn't right. It's the worst feeling I've ever had.
But anyway, I start to come out with her during the weeknights (something I didn't do previously because it got me too tired for work) and she shows disapproval, claiming it's "her night". Regardless, I come out with her and each night I plan to break up with her, but I keep chickening out. One night goes off without anything worth mentioning, she acts weird and cold, but by the end of the night she seems to be warmed up to me again.
The second night is a different story. At some point I am talking to her friends and a guy comes down and shows me a photo of her kissing a random guy, just to piss me off. Before I can rip the guys head off, she has shown up and drags me away. Everyone converges around me offering sympathy and she is clearly upset. But I'm too angry at her again to care. I foolishly go to a family bbq the following night, setting myself up for a facade I feel compelled to keep throughout the entire night, smiling through gritted teeth as if everything is perfect. And then afterwards, instead of spending time with me, she decides to go to a nightclub. Did I also mention she had a "girls night out" planned for the Halloween Saturday (the following night)?
So I am out of town for this entire weekend, shooting a film, so I decide to refrain from texting her to give her some space. This is a bad idea. Monday comes along, she is pissed that I didn't text her. I mean PISSED. We argue again. "I try to get close it doesn't work, I try to give you space, it doesn't work". What the fuck am I supposed to do? She says she's confused, but that she "loves me so fucking much". So I decide then and there, we're having a time out. A short period apart to sort things out. Maybe it will work, maybe it won't?
So last night I am talking to her friend on MSN about the whole thing, going on about how I want it to work, when her friend drops a bomb shell on me. Not only did she kiss this random guy, but she also sat in bed with him for an entire fucking day, cuddling and kissing and God knows what else. She had never told me this. Who just sits in bed though all day? Am I supposed to believe it was only kissing? I lose it. I call her up immediately. She's at the pub. Once again, real mature and obviously this whole thing means a lot to her. NOT. I tell her she's trash, pwn her on the phone and end the relationship right there and then. She denies everything, but my trust is so skewed at this point that it wouldn't matter what she said.
So it's over. The funny thing was, after I did all this, the weird feeling in my chest is gone. It's almost like, I was meant to do this, like I've discovered the final lie in the relationship and that I've actually got closure. I'm still not sure though if it's just immaturity or inexperience (I'm her first boyfriend. Ever.) or if she's really just a bad person. I guess I shouldn't feel too bad and be happy that I found out now instead of after I got back into a relationship with her. It's good that I didn't end up wasting any more time with her.
So good riddance to bad rubbish. Back to being single again. I've posted a picture of another similar whore for comparison.
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Submitted by Cakes (user info) at 2009-11-13 06:02:32 EST (#)
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AND you don't talk by msn, that's for geeks and nerds, call her, or go to her, face to face. What is it with texting? Are peep afraid of that old fashioned thing called talking? Don't try and explain, texting is for weenies, and you'll NEVER change my mind. (Yes there are exceptions, but not when it's something this serious).
Submitted by Cakes (user info) at 2009-11-13 05:49:32 EST (#)
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Don't be in pain, for fucks sake!! Jeezus, if you were in a situation with a hot girl-- even loving another girl or whatever -- and she came on to you, would you kiss her back if she started it. Chances are you would. You're a guy. I won't call you a whiner but come on. Stop the double standard bs.
Submitted by rob_berg (user info) at 2009-11-13 01:56:05 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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Foxtrot Tango Whiskey
Submitted by willartstorg (user info) at 2009-11-13 01:27:38 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by mismathed (user info) at 2009-11-09 00:33:00 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
wicked.
also. can i have her phone number?
Submitted by RoadSong (user info) at 2009-11-08 23:36:34 EST (#)
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+1 for the BLACK CORSET....
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concerning the gf. sorry bout your luck.
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-11-05 19:27:46 EST (#)
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It wouldn't hurt to do some serious research on clitorises, either.
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2009-11-05 15:28:57 EST (#)
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Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2009-11-05 00:35:47 PST (#)
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Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2009-11-05 01:14:58 EST (#)
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*shakes head*
reading this was painful...not gramatically, just painful in general.
what doesn't kill you will make you stronger though right? like you'll learn from this right?
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JohnnyX is as incapable of learning as he/she/it is inscrutable.
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HAHA, you just assumed from the pic that this mess was mine?
WRONG, my posts suck much worse than this.
Submitted by skettymonster (user info) at 2009-11-05 10:20:31 EST (#)
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yea fuck the whores or just be ghey like you feel inside. already. you already do.
and im sure you really were her first boyfriend. girls always tell the truth its a rule.
Submitted by Berty (user info) at 2009-11-05 03:35:47 EST (#)
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Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2009-11-05 01:14:58 EST (#)
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*shakes head*
reading this was painful...not gramatically, just painful in general.
what doesn't kill you will make you stronger though right? like you'll learn from this right?
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JohnnyX is as incapable of learning as he/she/it is inscrutable.
Submitted by Ducky (user info) at 2009-11-05 01:14:58 EST (#)
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*shakes head*
reading this was painful...not gramatically, just painful in general.
what doesn't kill you will make you stronger though right? like you'll learn from this right?
Submitted by LoooseSprocket (user info) at 2009-11-04 08:46:46 EST (#)
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No Comment
Submitted by forthewin (user info) at 2009-11-03 21:50:45 EST (#)
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How's it feel to be a doormat? If you kissed another girl, she probably would have broken up with you in 1/10 of a second.
Your behavior is pretty standard for guys who are with girls who are physically out of their league.
But I wouldn't worry about it, man. The attitude she was displaying is very typical of a 19 year old girl. They throw around "oh but I really love you so much" in awkward situations, because some of them realize that it's a brilliant tool for manipulation, and some are just naive enough to believe themselves. Often they get better with age, and others are just bitches forever. It's up to you to have the standards to filter out the whores, and date someone worth the time and effort (and money).
Grow some balls, get some self-esteem, and raise your standards.
Also, stop thinking you're having OMG AWESOME SEX!!!!, considering that it's clearly not true. People who think they are the best at something, rarely see the need to improve. And considering that your tramp girlfriend is fucking everything that moves, you might want to re-evaluate you're abilities.
Submitted by scourge (user info) at 2009-11-03 12:17:31 EST (#)
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i thought sico had finally developed some small sense of humour when i saw the username... then i opened it up and was confronted with this pile of shit.
i should rub your nose in this.
Submitted by wardy (user info) at 2009-11-03 12:01:14 EST (#)
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"She admits to going out EVERY night of the week we were apart and hooking up with random people. Obviously, this hurts."
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yeah, you're going to wanna go to the clinic down there at the student health building, and uh, well get that there checked out. that "hurt" is going to turn into a boil, blister, or a seepage and it won't get better without a healthy regimen of penicillin. good luck.
Submitted by JonnyX (user info) at 2009-11-03 11:37:11 EST (#)
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you stupid kids today.
Listen mate, she's a whore. Do you know what you do with whores?
YOU FUCK THEM. You don't buy them jewelry, and pay attention to their stupid ramblings about astrology and the cosmos and their fuckin' cat.
You have sex with them, and then you go away afterwards. THAT'S IT.
If you want drama, buy a Pekinese. Or turn ghey.
(grumble, grumble)
Oh, btw, posting pics of scantily clad lingerie sluts is MY JOB, sporto, so you'd best be paying me royalty +2 on my posts if you're going to do that.
Submitted by orphelia (user info) at 2009-11-03 10:42:58 EST (#)
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Submitted by X54 (user info) at 2009-11-03 10:11:34 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot, this is Lima Oscar Lima, over."
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HAHA
best review of a review ever
Submitted by X54 (user info) at 2009-11-03 10:11:34 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot, this is Lima Oscar Lima, over."
Submitted by Shlongy (user info) at 2009-11-03 09:38:00 EST (#)
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Get me her phone number, please.
Submitted by SgtHartman (user info) at 2009-11-03 08:23:14 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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Fucking incredible review Skrap.
Submitted by EmissionImpossible (user info) at 2009-11-03 04:23:52 EST (#)
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-2 annoying comments
Submitted by BubbaEarl (user info) at 2009-11-03 03:54:22 EST (#)
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you should fuck all her girl friends...
has she got any sisters?
Submitted by spuj (user info) at 2009-11-03 03:47:31 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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Best. Review. EVER.
Submitted by ridiculous (user info) at 2009-11-03 02:09:56 EST (#)
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Look man, we have all gone through heartbreak and believe me when I tell you it is part of the game. Yes you are hurt, yes the pain will be with you for a long time and you will likely be jaded as a result. Here is why that is (in my opinion) a good thing; it teaches you how easily your heart and mind can come to be at odds. It teaches you that you must be extremely cautious investing your emotions and it teaches you to keep that emotional distance with anyone you will be with who really, in the back of your head, you know is not the one. Is it and indeed the logic I am imparting herein kindof shitty on an emotional level? Well... yeah. Really it is. The world is an unfair and cruel place and this is one of the necessary evils for survival.
Best of luck man, its a hard road but you will make it.
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Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:55:09 EST (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/39761
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Submitted by Badlands (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:47:24 EST (#)
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You ALWAYS follow your heart...that's what you're not getting.
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OK so I am sure that I am about to break some kind of Uber protocol or unspoken rule but I will use my n00b status as a shield just this once.
Badlands. The post sage104 linked was really really good. You said what everone who has ever been shattered by emotions never had the courage to. I post my comment here because rating a post from 2004 - well, somehow I am guessing you wont be reading it very soon. Sage, thank you for the link.
Submitted by ridiculous (user info) at 2009-11-03 01:36:51 EST (#)
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Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
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BWAHAHAHAAHAHA!
AWESOME
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-11-03 01:00:52 EST (#)
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Okay, I read it this time. Turns out your girlfriend really IS a whore!
But seriously, she's young and selfish and possibly a little fucked in the head--the reasons don't matter so don't bother obsessing. It can't work. Move on. Get a hobby and a date.
Would you like to be billed for my services or pay now?
Submitted by netimportant (user info) at 2009-11-03 00:51:51 EST (#)
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I broke up with your girlfriend because she was a whore.
Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:55:09 EST (#)
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http://www.ubersite.com/m/39761
Submitted by Badlands (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:47:24 EST (#)
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You ALWAYS follow your heart...that's what you're not getting.
Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:45:50 EST (#)
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Maybe you're right, maybe I do deserve the "abuse" I get.
And yeah, it is the best advice I have. He seems to "get" it, and posting about it was probably more cathartic than anything else, a way to get it off his chest and further the closure process. He doesn't need to be told she's a whore--he needs to be told to stop following his fucking heart.
Do I live by my own advice? Hell no, I don't--I followed MY heart and look where it got me. And maybe that's my problem. But at the very least, I have no regrets. Based on your posts (which I've read and related to), you've been there too.
Submitted by Badlands (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:36:43 EST (#)
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I got no problem with you being a fucking geek...and I sure as shit don't take issue with your religious upbringing. But you're talking to a kid here...one that clearly hasn't been thru the kind of relationships that you and I have been through.
Is that your best advice?? Really? Maybe you really do deserve the abuse you get.
Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:32:57 EST (#)
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Eh...in my defense, I went to a Christian school. That's just the first thing that came to mind when I read this post. Some habits are hard to break. And I couldn't think of a good way to "sign off" what I wrote, hence the "godspeed". Im a fucking geek, what of it? :)
Submitted by Badlands (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:26:31 EST (#)
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I didn't think anything could be worse than then this post. And I read Sage's comment. Are you fucking kidding me?? Quoting scripture?? "Godspeed"?!?!? Baby...you need a good fucking by a real man. Omega, my balls.
As for you, Teen Angst...get over it. She's a whore. You'll age and realize that this was ridiculous bullshit. And I guarantee you won't need some mentally imbalanced, emotionally unavailable attention hound to quote the good book to make you see it.
GODSPEED!
Submitted by skrapmetal (user info) at 2009-11-02 22:11:15 EST (#)
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar requesting reinforcements. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Come in. Over."
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"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is..."
"Echo Foxtrot Oscar, this it Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. What is your situation? Over."
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot this is Echo Mike Oscar. Thank God. I'm overrun. Requesting reinforcements. Over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar, your situation does not repeat does not warrant additional attention. You're on your own. Over."
"PLEEEEEAAAAASE! Oh, uh, over."
"Negative, Echo Mike Oscar. Switch coms to Sierra Tango Foxtrot Uniform. Suggest immediate commencement of operation Golf Tango Foxtrot Oscar. Over and out."
Submitted by sage104 (user info) at 2009-11-02 21:55:36 EST (#)
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I read the whole thing, partially because it was at the very least well-written (meaning no obvious grammatical errors).
You seem to have sussed this situation out, but I suppose I'll echo your sentiment that she's just young and add that she's obviously not ready for any sort of commitment. She also seems to have a fucked up view of what love is...actions speak louder than words, after all.
As for you following your heart, bravo--it takes courage to do so. However, to quote Jeremiah 17:9, "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" I'm sure even non-believers can agree with that passage of scripture.
Stick with logic from now on, or at least attempt to reconcile the heart and logic from time to time. I figure when they're in balance is the only time love will actually be a worthwhile endeavor.
Godspeed, friend.